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5 AFFIRMATIONS SINGLE INDEPENDENT WOMEN NEED TO HEAR

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 There are many number of articles out there that cater to single women…looking for a relationship. From tips to feeling less lonely to the things every single woman doesn’t want to hear. The list goes on and on and on.

Lawd, though – single women don’t want to be told everything they already know. They already have it drilled into their pretty little heads that, yes, marriage won’t fulfill you, to let love find you (not the other way around) and that in order to know love you must find purpose within yourself.

What about the others? You know, the single and not miserable. I’m talking about the single, independent and perfectly capable, happy and content. Let’s finally put you under the spot light – it’s your time to shine.

This one’s for you – the affirmations every (happily) single, independent woman needs to hear. As for the single women out there who are tired of being single – eh, this may or may not be your cup of tea.

 

5 AFFIRMATIONS

SINGLE INDEPENDENT WOMEN

NEED TO HEAR

 

GO ON LOVING YOURSELF – GET IT, GIRL

The relationship with yourself is the best you’ll ever have, plus the only one you entirely control. No, really – we don’t sugarcoat that one enough, do we? I will say, though, that the relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you’ll have. So be careful with that one.

Sure, you’ll get the few stragglers who call you out for being selfish or (hold your breath)… high and mighty, but really all that is saying is, “Damn, girl, you really do make yourself a priority.

Well deserved, too. Don’t get that twisted.

Self love is not selfish, so treat yourself. Self care is not selfish, so heal yourself.

YOU’RE NOT CRAZY, OVERLY PICKY OR HIGH MAINTENANCE

So maybe these are the usual acoustics you hear from the horse’s mouth – when you do actually date, or simply because you are happily content on your own.

That you’re crazy for not being actively on the hunt to settle down – oh, in that case, there must be clearly something wrong with you, right? When your cons outweigh the pros with every guy you meet – you know, because a guy living with his mom at 30 is such a hot commodity these days. With that you are just difficult to please and expect too much from someone – don’t waste your time explaining to someone the difference between high standards and being high maintenance.

Girl, you are none of that noise. Never settle for less than BEST, because you can’t turn a rotten apple into a heavenly fruit. Never let anyone make you feel ashamed that you are willing to love yourself fully by waiting for the right one to come along (when you are ready) and not being in the wrong relationship just to have one.

 

STOP LISTENING TO THE HERD

Those who continually pick you apart – piece by piece – asking when you’ll meet a man, why you haven’t gotten married, or letting you know that your biological clock is ticking. As if you didn’t already know that [eye-twitch]. The worst is when it comes from those you love, and those who apparently love and know you, and want the best for you. But really, in a sense, do they even? You are not a time bomb or ticking clock. You are a human BEING. Stop allowing the herd to get into your head with their doctored diagnoses to fixing your “singlism“. You will be ready when you are ready – without their “help“.


BEING ALONE ISN’T LONELINESS

Being introvert-extroverted, so. many .people would consider the extent of my alone time as complete lonelinessThis is not the case. Being alone is NOT in any way, shape or form the definition of being lonely. Some of the loneliest people on this earth are actually in a relationship – let that one sink in.

Sure, I don’t think anybody truly LIKES being alone. Hell, I enjoy alone time. Even as a married woman – who still spends quite a bit more time alone (having a husband who lives the lifestyle of a vampire half the year – literally) –  I still get slyly wandering eyes from time to time in public. I mean, the ladies at the grocery store check out will even say, “No husband with you today?” – as if it’s ODD that I came alone this time around.

Uhhh, hello, I’m still my own person without him…?

So don’t be afraid or ashamed to do things alone. Go to that movie or eat at that restaurant. You can do things by yourself and still be happily content in doing so.

JUST DO YOU – NOTHING ELSE

Don’t feel the need to change yourself in order to appease other’s opinions or assumptions. Focus on your career, finishing school or filling up your 30 year savings goal – you don’t NEED someone to help you through it.

Don’t listen to the whispers of others saying, “you don’t get out enough“, “you’re never going to find someone with your nose in your career“, “by the time you’re 30 you’re going to wish you had spent more time finding a connection instead of that promotion,” or “no guy is going to be down with someone who wears sweatpants all the time“.

You know what that’s called? Negativity. And you don’t need it – swat it away like a fly! Don’t try to be someone else FOR anyone else. Someone will see you for you, and love you dearly for it.

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