Learn The best way to protect your relationship with others from misunderstanding and prolonged argument..
Misunderstanding like every other problem can be prevented and even solved, there is nothing that is beyond remedy, everything is subject to remedy. the problem is that we don’t even know how to solve the problems, talk less of preventing them. Prevention is still better than cure, the cost of preventing something is still very low compared to the cost of repairing them. It is more easier to prevent than to cure, looking for a cure can take more time and involve more processes but prevention is smart and faster. In this article, 36infong reveals a secret that will help you to prevent misunderstanding, prolonged arguments and unnecessary disagreements.
When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day. I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson.
She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered. I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.
The teacher told me to go and stand at where the boy was standing and told him to come and stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.” It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white but from my side it was black.
This is why people argue and argue and argue. Misunderstanding is a serious problem, It can Make You Do The Wrong Thing Seriously, It can Make You kill Another Confidently, It Can cause you to Support The Wrong Thing, It can Make You Die For The Wrong Thing, It Can Make you Argue For The Wrong Thing, It Can Make You Say The Wrong Thing With Temerity. Misunderstanding Is Terrible, Most Problems Have Been Caused By Misunderstanding Than Any Other Thing, Most People Have Fought Because Of Misunderstanding More Than Any Other Reason, Most Relationships Has Ended Abruptly Without Explanation Because Of Misunderstanding, Most Families Have Separated Because Of Misunderstanding.
One Cannot Correctly Number The Ills Of Misunderstanding. Misunderstanding Is Very Destructive And Must Be Avoided. Sometimes we need to look at the problem from the another person’ view in order to truly understand his/her perspective. It is not just about what you are seeing alone, You may not really know what the other person is seeing, It is not just about how you are seeing, It is also about how the other person is seeing.
Life has many perspective and view points, People see differently from different view point, and so we must not insist that what we are seeing is it. We need to see it the way others are seeing it first in order to know how to address the issues. Sometimes we argue without listening to others, We talk without paying attention to what others are even saying, we just think that it is our view of it and nothing else but that’s not it. it is much more than that.
Everything we are saying is as a result of our point of view, I believe if we see it from each other’s view the reaction will be different, you may never understand others if all you are seeing is your own, learning to see others point of view helps you to understand where they are coming from, Sometimes we just think that there is no need to see it from their angle but there is every need to do that because each angle has an information attached to it. Nobody just argues, Nobody just talks nonsense, you can call it non sense because you are not seeing what they are seeing, They can call yours foolishness because they lack the same ability to see it from your perspective.
To bring understanding to any situation, don’t just wave away others suggestions, listen first, see it with them first, think it with them first and ascertain it with them and your relationship with others will be devoid of unnecessary misunderstanding, prolonged arguments and disagreements which may destroy it.