Men and Women are Wired
Especially when the issue of defining Love is involved.
Many Women today are not happy or let me say don’t feel loved by their husbands because of this issue we are about to discuss.
A Man will come from work, ask for food, eat to his satisfaction and suddenly feel like having sex, then he’ll turn to his wife and ask for sex. Just like that.
And when the woman obliges him he feels loved, he’s had dinner and he’s had sex too
What more could he ask for?
He’s a happy Man, His Wife must love him so much he concludes.
But a Woman doesn’t just start feeling like having sex with a Man Just like that.
Her husband comes back from work, he doesn’t acknowledge her, he doesn’t appreciate her, he just says “good evening dear” in a loveless and cold manner, she feels it.
He asks for dinner, she has prepared that food with so much love and effort, he doesn’t appreciate the food, her cooking skills or anything, he tells her to please make sure the children have eaten, she feels it.
Then after watching the 9pm News, he heads to the bedroom,
She soon joins him there feeling tired and expecting some sort of encouragement or show of understanding from her husband, upon getting none from him she’s already feeling like he doesn’t care. She’s already feeling unloved.
Then suddenly she feels a hand tugging at her Bra, it’s her husband, she understands.
She obliges him as a good wife,
But to be honest she’s in the least not interested in love making but she allows him,
She can’t remember when last he told her he loved her.
After some minutes he’s through, he smiles at her and turns to his side of the bed and is soon fast asleep. No cuddle, no nothing.
He loves my Body, not Me.
He doesn’t love Me she concludes.
Many Men know about SEXUAL INTERCOURSE, but few know about what I’m about to say now.
SEXUAL OUTERCOURSE. (S.O)
What’s the difference between sexual Intercourse and sexual Outercourse?
Sexual Intercourse happens in places like bedroom or any other location that guarantees PRIVACY and never in public.
Sexual Outercourse happens outside the bedroom, happens in the kitchen, in the church, in the mall, in the street, before the kids, before the neighbours, everywhere and anywhere both publicly and privately.
S.I is making Love (Sex)
S.O is showing Love. (speaking ones partners Love Language for instance is a typical instance of sexual outercourse)
S.I involves the* *sexual organs
S.O does not involve the sexual organs.
It rather involves communication, gift exchange, spending time together. Etc
S.I is focused on Sexual fulfillment
S.O is focused on Love, Romance and Friendship.
S.I is easy for the Man with or without S.O
S.I is difficult for the woman without S.O
Without Sexual Intercourse the Man feels unloved.
Without Sexual Outercourse the Woman feels unloved.
Please don’t just assume your wife is happy because you are happy.
Understand that your wife doesn’t see sex the way you do, to her sex isn’t everything.
Want your wife to feel loved?
To feel Sexy?
To even be the one asking for it?
Learn the act of Sexual Outercourse.
Learn how to appreciate her looks, her cooking, her efforts put into your marriage and verbalise this even as God through his word declares that he Loves Us.
Learn to Respect her and treat her with Tender Love and Care (TLC), like you do with your own self.
Learn how to tell her how much you love her regularly like king Solomon does in the Songs of Solomon.
Learn how to assist her in the House with chores and the kids like the Holy Spirit is helping us here on earth in all we do.
In summary learn your Wife’s LOVE LANGUAGE
AND BE SPEAKING IT LIKE IT’S YOUR NATIVE LANGUAGE
SPEAK HER LOVE LANGUAGE LIKE A CHRISTIAN SPEAKS IN TONGUES AND SEE YOUR MARRIAGE LIFE CATCH FIRE