When you start dating, you are at your best — be it caring for your partner, looking beautiful or your behavior. When a relationship is at its nascent stage, both go the extra mile to be nice to each other so they can make it work. The pressure is enormous. And, why not, when you are trying to pretend to be someone else and not you? It’s hard to be good all the time, right? But, eventually, as you graduate from being smitten lovers to mature partners, this is precisely how you feel…”What the heck! He might as well know who I really am. After all, he will have to accept it one day or the other.”
If you are one of those with similar thoughts, this article is for you. It’s okay to be yourself, but a relationship is all about adjustments from both sides, and it takes hell lot of effort to stay there. And without even your knowledge, you could probably be killing your relationship with a few silly mistakes. So, here we are to tell you about three rules to swear by to keep the relationship going. Ready? Let’s dive right in…
1. Mind Your Tone Of Speech
There are many ways to express what you want to say. If you get the tone wrong at the very beginning of your conversation, you would have ruined the chances of him even lending his ear to what you have to say. Consider this: Your guy has grown very possessive about you of late, which is making you uncomfortable. So much that all you want to do is scream your lungs out and say, “I am not liking it.” But, that would just be a spoiler. There’s a different way to convey your message. How about this instead?
Wrong: Please stop irritating me, it’s suffocating.
Right: Honey, I know you love me like crazy. But wouldn’t it be better if we trusted each other more?
2. Turn A Negative Outburst Into A Positive Discussion
You just learn that he has called his mom over for his birthday celebrations without even telling you. All your plans of throwing a surprise party for him and his friends goes kaput! The first thought that occurs to you is to bang his head with a pan to make him realize his folly. But that means making him unhappy on his special day. So, here’s how you deal with the scenario.
Wrong: I hate you for this. How dare you invite your mom when I have made elaborate plans to make your day special?
Right: Why don’t we take her out for lunch on your birthday? She might get bored sitting amidst a bunch of unknown people lost in their own world.
3. Sarcasm Hurts
Being witty, sarcastic, and funny is okay. But not all the time. There are situations when your partner is trying to be nice to you, and the least he expects is for you to take him seriously. Picture this: You have had a bitter fight and haven’t spoken for an entire day. At the end of the day, your guy comes in search of you and kneels down with a bouquet that reads ‘Sorry’ and ‘Will you join me for dinner?’ beneath that. And all you can think of saying is, “Whatever!” This sure will be a put off for him and a rude way to react. When a person is parking his ego aside to apologize and make it up to you, it would be nice to kiss and make up instead of being cruel. Here’s what you should do and avoid.
Wrong: Yeah, I knew you would come back to me.
Right: Thanks for such a beautiful bunch of flowers, baby. Let’s not fight ever. Dinner would be a great idea!
Words have a power like none other. Sometimes, we have no idea about the impact our words can have on the other person. Weigh your words before you let them out. Haven’t we heard that words once spoken cannot be revoked? No amount of apology can actually undo the damage caused by the harshness of your words. So, better be safe than sorry.
We all want our relationship to last forever. But, what you blurt out consciously or unconsciously could widen the rift between the two of you and ruin your relationship. No two persons think alike, so there will be a difference of opinion. That leaves ample scope for misunderstandings to crop up. The wisest thing to do is to nip it in the bud than making a mountain out of a molehill. So, the next time you have a misunderstanding, the best thing for you to do is sit across the table and sort it out instead of letting it grow. Life is too short to hold grudges. Forgive, forget, and get on with it! You know what I mean? So, love birds, just take a chill pill and cherish every moment.